Bound to joy

“The Yeti”:http://www.greeblie.com/theyeti/ (on his new site, and with a much more readable font!), in his own inimitable way, opines that “one major problem with relationships”:http://www.greeblie.com/theyeti/arch/011239.html today is that many women are caught in a dichotomy of wanting “chivalry” and yet wanting to resent it if they get it.

I think he’s got a serious point, at least as regards many women.  Of course, the gate swings both ways—a lot of men are just as confused and resentful over this whole mess. 

Trying to “make someone happy” is just as futile and frustrating as “waiting to be made happy”.  Both spring from a concept of trying to find something externally that only happens internally.

Reminds me of the story about the guy one night who came upon a drunk on his hands and knees under a streetlight, looking around frantically…

“What are you looking for?”

“I dropped my contact lens”

(much mutual futile searching ensues)

“Okay, let’s try this differently - where _exactly_ did you drop it?”

“About a half a block that way.”

“So why are you looking here?”

“The light’s better here.”

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“He who Binds Himself to a Joy

Does the winged life destroy

He who kisses the joy as it flies

Lives in Eternity’s sunrise”

– _William Blake_

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